You’re halfway through the date, and by this time, you’re giving the possibility of a match some serious thought. You’re both getting along so far, you share roughly the same interests, you feel an attraction… still there’s something indescribable missing; a spark, a skipped heartbeat… you’re looking for chemistry.
Some people believe that chemistry is apparent upon the initial encounter, that it is never forced or nurtured. This romantic notion of love at first sight unfortunately doesn’t apply too much in the real world. It is true that some couples do fall in love instantaneously upon meeting each other, but most people have to work their way towards their ideal match the hard way – through trial and error. If you’re at the stage of the date where you’re beginning to consider the possibility of further meetings, you’re naturally seeking a worthy incentive to keep the relationship going. Before you put too much pressure on yourself and rush into things which you may regret afterwards, keep your emotions in check and consider the following tips first.
If you’re seriously thinking about a serious commitment, don’t, at least for now. If you doubt whether a strong chemistry exists or not, chances are it doesn’t since you hesitate at the thought. Don’t rush into the ‘further commitment’ part unless you see yourself with this person within a realistic time projection, say, a few months to a year. If all things are considered and you are still reluctant at the thought, then you should keep your plans with your date within the next few meetings.
If, by chance you make it to the next few dates and you still don’t see the fireworks, chances are they are far from becoming possible at the moment. Just make sure that you leave some leeway for a comeback by maintaining friendship before you sever the romantic connection, especially if you see in your date the qualities you have been looking for in an ideal man or woman, but don’t feel the chemistry to keep the relationship going.
Don’t confuse physical attractiveness with chemistry. Chemistry is probably the underlying ingredient in all relationships, and is the reason why people of different backgrounds, physical appearance, and social status all get along so nicely with each other. The same goes with the prospect for a romantic relationship. Even if the other person has the car, the body, the looks, and the maturity required for an ideal mate, if the sparks aren’t flying, it probably isn’t worth further effort.